Processing Grief Spread
We’re all going through a hard time right now—some of us more than others. All of the feelings are hard to process. I found it helpful to design and practice this spread, and I hope it can help some of you. The most important thing is to let yourself feel.
Processing Grief Spread
Level: Intermediate
Type: Self-Reflection or Querent Driven
1. A representation of your grief
2. Your current stage of grieving
3. Something you need to accept
4. What to leave behind from this experience
5. What to take with you
6. What to focus on to help you move forward
7. The meaning to be found
0. You
Before you shuffle, remove your or your querent’s significator from the deck and set it aside. Shuffle, place the rest of the cards and read them. At the end, cover the card in position 1 that represents your grief with your significator as a reminder that no matter what happens, you’re still you.
My Reading
1. Chariot - My grief is represented by a loss of control, security, and blind faith.
2. The Wheel of Fortune - I’m feeling slighted by fate and again without control. I’m realizing so many things that lead to this that I couldn’t see before. This was an inevitable turning point. Things couldn’t have gone on the way they were forever.
3. The World Reversed - I need to accept that my world was turned upside down and that things can’t be the same again. I need to let go of how things were. I need to let go of emotional hang-ups, accept who I am now and forget about who I used to be.
4. Ace of Pentacles - I need to leave behind the progress I thought I was making and start over with new seeds. I grew in the wrong direction.
5. Page of cups - There is an opportunity and potential to become more in control of my emotions and my relationship that I need to capitalize on.
6. X of cups - I need to focus on what I still have left in my relationship. The love at the core of the life we built together.
7. Knight of wands - I’m stronger than I thought and I can get through this.
0. Queen of cups - Me. I lost sight of who I was. I am a loving, empathetic person, but I was overwrought by my own emotions. I need to make them my power instead of my weakness again.
